Author Arnita L. Fields gives a very insightful and inspirational view in her book After the Affair, Emotional Healing God's Way. Author Fields helps guide the reader along various stages one might find themselves dealing with including one's Heart, Spirit, Mind and Body. While some find it quick to forgive, others need a longer time to process the hurt, mistrust, and journey to restore that broken relationship. Author Fields explains it is acceptable to grieve -- just don't stay there.
When one begins to assess their wounds, they will find many things they knew were there as well as items that seemingly sprang up out of nowhere. It is at this point that one must decide if they will forgive and move forward within their life. Next, the process of renewing the mind must begin. This will not be an easy part of the journey but one that I feel is vitally important for one to truly move forward and find a release within their mind. When one's mind is clouded with resentment, it will affect everything and everyone around them. For one to reclaim the intimacy of the body after an affair, there must be forgiveness within the Heart, Spirit and Mind. There will be great difficulty in allowing intimacy with that individual unless true forgiveness has occurred.
Author Fields gives great insight, wisdom, and practical advice in her book. She also lists study questions at the end of each chapter to allow the reader the opportunity to dig deeper for more profound truth and insight. This is a book that is designed for the reader to work at their own pace, while allowing the Holy Spirit to bring help and healing within their life.